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abundanceofcaution: I’m living without passive aggression or sarcasm. I’m addressing things that don’t feel right. So, something has been bothering me as a major oversight of professional courtesy on the part of a long-time acquaintance. I referred this man - a part-time real estate agent - to my dear friend who was selling a size able estate. It was an awful market. This was a true gift. My friend was happy with the sale, this part-time realtor acquaintance was ecstatic. I did not get the standard professional courtesy of a Thank You note hanging around a bottle of Champagne - or even the Thank You note part. He did send my friend a very generous restaurant gift card. But that made it clear he knew what was appropriate to do for his clients - I don’t know how he could take my piece of the transaction for granted. So, very plainly, when he reached out to me tonight with a one sentence email: “How ya feelin’?” I sent a note back. I gave him a brief health update. Then, the last line of my note was, “Now would be a really good time for you to send your home-bound friend who referred you a very profitable real estate client some flowers. That sounds really nice to me.” Even if nothing comes of it, I feel stronger for having addressed it. It is what I needed, just to get it out of me. I will keep you posted. People should communicate what they believe in, and a friend will know that and still be a friend.
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abundanceofcaution:

I’m living without passive aggression or sarcasm. I’m addressing things that don’t feel right.

So, something has been bothering me as a major oversight of professional courtesy on the part of a long-time acquaintance.

I referred this man - a part-time real estate agent - to my dear friend who was selling a size able estate. It was an awful market. This was a true gift. My friend was happy with the sale, this part-time realtor acquaintance was ecstatic.

I did not get the standard professional courtesy of a Thank You note hanging around a bottle of Champagne - or even the Thank You note part.

He did send my friend a very generous restaurant gift card. But that made it clear he knew what was appropriate to do for his clients - I don’t know how he could take my piece of the transaction for granted.

So, very plainly, when he reached out to me tonight with a one sentence email: “How ya feelin’?” I sent a note back.

I gave him a brief health update. Then, the last line of my note was, “Now would be a really good time for you to send your home-bound friend who referred you a very profitable real estate client some flowers. That sounds really nice to me.”

Even if nothing comes of it, I feel stronger for having addressed it. It is what I needed, just to get it out of me.

I will keep you posted.

People should communicate what they believe in, and a friend will know that and still be a friend.

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  1. tbmimsthethird said: A bouquet of ampersands would be a pretty awesome gift, too.
  2. smartasshat reblogged this from abundanceofcalm and added:
    People should communicate what they believe in, and a friend will know that and still be a friend.
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